How to Meet Band Members at a Concert
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Updated: July 19, 2019 | References
It’s totally normal to want to meet the members of your favorite band. After all, when you see them in concert, you’re literally in the same room with them. Of course, you can’t just nudge your way to the stage and hope for the best, but you can improve your chances of meeting the band. To make your experience truly memorable, don’t forget to make a good impression and follow some rules of etiquette.
Part One of Three:
Improving Your Odds of Meeting the Band
Join the band’s fan club. Many fan clubs get secret meet-and-greets before or after the show. This can give you more time to talk to them. Be prepared to pay annual membership fees. Some clubs limit the number of meet-and-greets you can have each year.
Form connections with the band online. Follow the band on social media. Get involved in chats or “follow-back” parties they host. Make sure you’re chatting with a verified account. On Twitter and Facebook, verified accounts usually have white checkmarks in blue circles. You could say:
“I can’t believe you wrote that guitar solo in just 15 minutes. That’s amazing!”
“I was so psyched to find out you like rock climbing. I’ve been doing it for a few years now. If you’re ever in my city, I can show you the gyms with the best climbing walls.”
Ask for introductions within your network. Do this if you’re lucky enough to have a friend or relative in the music business. You’ll probably have the most luck if you know a roadie or someone who works in a recording studio. However, it never hurts to ask your friend who writes for a music magazine or cousin who works as a DJ.
Enter contests for backstage passes. Listen to your local radio stations when tickets go on sale. Be prepared to answer a trivia question or call in at exactly the right time. If you don’t have time to surf the radio for hours, search online. Many stations will announce these contests on their websites.
Buy VIP tickets. They cost extra, but you’ll be guaranteed to briefly meet the band. Don’t get your hopes up. You won’t be able to hang out for too long. Most sessions only last long enough to get an autograph or quick snapshot.
Search online for signings near you. Many bands sign tee shirts, CDs, autograph books, etc. at music festivals like Coachella or Glastonbury. On the day of the signing, check the band’s website or social media page for a specific time and location at the festival. Get there early, since most signings last for a short time.
Bands also have signings at music stores when their new albums launch. If you have a music store in your community, keep an eye out when you know the new single is being released.
Arrive at the venue a few hours early. If the concert doesn’t have reserved seating, this is your chance to get as close to the stage as possible. If there is reserved seating, you might still be able to catch the band arriving for their soundcheck. Make sure you’re standing at the back entrance reserved for the band. Do this with a few friends, since many back entrances are in dark alleyways.
Hang around after the show. Find out ahead of time from crew members or other fans where the band will be exiting. You don’t want to be behind the venue if the band will be exiting through a side door. Leave the concert a bit early to get a good spot. Just stick to legally designated areas to avoid getting arrested!
Attend a concert at a smaller venue. Older, more established bands sometimes play at local clubs, bars, and casinos. Of course, you must be old enough to legally drink alcohol and/or gamble to enter. If you’re under legal drinking and/or gambling age, some bands might still play at state and county fairs. Smaller venues like these can improve your chances of meeting the band.
Part Two of Three:
Making a Good Impression
Read music magazines for background info. Look up the band’s information on their official website or in magazines (or their companion websites) like Rolling Stone or The NME. Read up on the band’s history, backstories behind your favorite songs, and the band members’ likes and dislikes. This will give you something to talk about.
Choose your sources wisely. Wikipedia can be edited by anyone. Third-party blogs and fan sites aren’t always reliable. You don’t want to embarrass yourself by talking about a rumor as if it were true.
Re-listen to the band’s music. Use it as an experience. Focus on the moods or emotions each song evokes. Listen for interesting changes in chords or keys. Pick out any catchy symbols or metaphors in the lyrics. Use these as something to talk about when you meet the band.
Practice what you want to say. Don’t worry about memorizing a script. Just have a few handy talking points ready. Point out how one or two of their songs have made an impact on your life. If they influenced you to pursue a career in music, mention that. Avoid over-the-top statements like declarations of love or anything else that might make you seem like a crazed fan. You could say:
“I really love the riffs in ‘Stairway to Heaven.’ That’s what inspired me to start playing the guitar.”
“After I saw you profiled on ‘Behind the Music,’ I decided to pursue a career in music journalism.”
Watch what you eat. Eat energizing foods like leafy greens, fruits, and whole grains to keep you going through the excitement. If you eat right before the concert, avoid garlic, onions, or other foods that can make you gassy or give you bad breath. To be on the safe side, pack some mints to chew before you meet the band.
Pack toiletries. Unless you’re a seasoned pro around famous musicians, you’ll be nervous, which will make you sweaty. Pack a travel-size deodorant to apply right before you plan to meet the band. If you wear makeup, bring your facial powder to touch up shiny spots. Have a makeup sponge on hand to blot any eyeliner or mascara that might have smeared (unless, of course, that’s the look you’re going for).
Part Three of Three:
Following Proper Etiquette
Act calmly. Don’t scream or coo. Talk to them the way you talk to your friends. If you get too excited, they might think you’re just a crazed fan. Famous people are just as human as you are. Most of them prefer fans to treat them like everyday people.
Give them space. Don’t interrupt them if they’re eating or talking to someone. Ask permission before making any physical contact. An unexpected hug might freak them out. Finally, show other fans the same respect you’d expect by not hogging the band for yourself.
Ask permission before taking pictures. This includes still pictures and video. The last thing you want is to embarrass your favorite musician by recording them in a touchy moment. If you give them a heads-up, they’ll have a chance to straighten up before you snap a picture or record a video.
Be respectful if they don’t want to appear in a picture. Everyone has a bad hair or outfit day. If that’s the case, opt for a short conversation. That memory might be greater than a picture.
Show interest in their work. Compliment their performance if you’re talking to them after the show. Give positive feedback about past performances you’ve seen for pre-show meet-and-greets. If possible, talk to them about their work or side projects, especially if they write or produce for another band.
Use discretion when asking questions. Ask questions about their approach to music, how they warm up, or what inspired them to start performing. Even if you’re their biggest fan, there’s always something new to learn. However, you should avoid asking personal questions, especially about their love lives or family lives. This will only make them uncomfortable.
I have liver cancer and need a liver transplant one of my last wish is to the Band Kansas
First of all, I hope you can get that transplant as soon as possible! As for meeting the band, I would suggest contacting the band through their official website and making your case. You could also check into local or national charities that grant cancer patients such wishes.
I got standard tickets to a concert with VIP Area/Club/Lounge access included. Does that mean I get to meet anyone or get autographs?
It would probably say so on the tickets if it did. If it’s a smaller venue and a lesser known band or artist, it’s possible.
What do I do if I don’t have the money for a VIP pass?
You could always wait outside for the band/artist you want to meet. You’ll have to try to avoid security and figure out where they’ll exit, though.
Would it help if I follow the band on Twitter, Facebook etc. to get updates?
This would be a great idea. Nowadays bands, celebrities, etc. post updates about where they’re going and what they’re doing. If you know who their manager is and/or what record label they are signed to, follow them as well.
Is it best to be in the front or the back for a meet and greet?
The front is better because the celebrity hasn’t met anyone yet. So they should be more happy to see you.
How can I take gifts to my favorite band before a show?
Try giving the gift to the band preforming before them (if there is one), and see if they would get it to them for you.
Can people wait behind the arena/stage after the show?
Normally only the V.I.Ps have access to that area and the guards will kick everyone else out. It’s possible if you beg them enough they will let you hang around. It happened to a friend of mine.
How can I get an autograph at a music festival?
Some festivals, like the Warped Tour or Download Festival, have free signings or meet and greet opportunities. Sometimes there are also paid-VIP options. At any of these, you might be able to get an autograph.
Can I meet the band after a concert if I buy V.I.P. passes?
Yes, V.I.P. passes include a “meet and greet” session.
How can I find out where the celebrity will leave from after a concert?
Station a person at each exit and supply everyone with walkie-talkies. Whoever spots the celebrity can quickly communicate the location to everyone else.
Have a pen and paper on hand if you want autographs. Bring a permanent marker if you want them to sign a photograph, poster, or tee shirt.
Don’t go backstage unless you have a VIP pass or other official badge from the band or a local radio station. Otherwise, you could get arrested.
Don’t stalk the band at the airport, at their hotel, or near their tour bus. Stick to the areas legally designated for fans.
Never meet a band member in private. Just because they’re famous, it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re honorable. Always bring one or more friends with you.
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